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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a big difference between a couple that goes into marriage knowing full well their spouse expects them to be the sole or primary breadwinner, and the couple that winds up in the this situation unwittingly. I wouldn't see a problem with the former; the latter is a recipe for discontent in a marriage. Sure, stuff can happen -- death, disability. But thinking you were entering a partnership of earning and winding up with eveything on your back -- that's something else altogether. I don't care if the non-earner is male or female. Same issue in my book.[/quote]

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But it is not a level playing field.   There are a gazillion men in the past few decades who married believing that they and their spouses would both continue working, only to have their well-educated, successful wives decide that they wanted to become SAHMs.  How many of those men tell their wives they need to keep working and suggest to anyone that their wives are no longer "winner" material.  If anything, it's the opposite; it's still a sign of their success as breadwinners that they can support a non-working spouse. [/quote]

My DH could easily support the whole family on his income, but it is an expectation that I work. I have seen a TON of men on this board complain that their SAHWs are lazy and they wish they would work.  I think for *some men* they speak in a derogatory manner about SAHMs...I know one such guy in particular who is a bit offensive in his strong opinions on the matter and he is easily pulling in 500K/yr and his wife probably even more. He has no respect for women who don't work. I do think it goes both ways.  I don't agree with it, but it is certainly prevalent.[/quote]

I guess I'm sort of relieved that I didn't marry a guy like that.  I mean I can totally understand not wanting to be the sole breadwinner/wanting a spouse to work but to have zero respect for SAHPs in general is a little..well, mind boggling and 100% not his business.  Sorry.  Not his call, I don't care how much $$$$ he makes.[/quote]

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