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[quote=Anonymous]OP, he is having an affair. Whether they've slept together or not doesn't really matter--although I really can't imagine a man planning to leave his wife for his emotional affair before they've had sex. Sorry.

You seem to be comforted by the shred of truth he's giving you. And yes, he may end it all now. But for you both to move on and make your marriage deeper, stronger, you MUST know the truth. You have to know and he has to tell you. If he is not willing to share his emails, then he's still covering up and lying. By reading about his plans to leave you, you're worried...what? that you'll actually know the truth about what is going on? That you'll have to remove the blinders you are wearing? that you will actually access what I imagine is a deep, deep well of anger and pain and betrayal that you are doing a pretty good job of temporarily repressing?

I don't mean to be harsh but...if he can do this now, and get off scot free (more or less) what's to stop him from doing it again? Whats to stop you from wondering forever if he's honest? What's going to get both of you to address the critical issues in your marriage? Do you really want to live side by side, not knowing what the other person is really thinking or feeling? Maybe he sought an emotional affair because there's a lack of emotional intimacy in your marriage because you're both too scared to address things head on? (Note I am not blaming you or the marriage for his affair, but am trying to figure out what might be one of the drivers, for him). [/quote]

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