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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's telling that she didn't acknowledge/congratulate the OP before making her announcement.  When we shared our baby news during a visit to our out-of-town in laws, the other SIL (DH's brother's wife) was pregnant, very early on, and hadn't told anyone yet.  She told us the next day, privately, because she knew we'd be leaving town.   She could've announced it when we did as well to share in the excitement- these were the first, much anticipated grandchildren.  But, she was only about 5 weeks along, and knew that they'd be able to share the news with everyone (except us) who live near them soon enough.  Also, several years earlier her husband (my DH's brother) chose to congratulate his sister on her very recent engagement during his best man's toast at my wedding.  She was horrified at the time and I think that may have also played a part in her decision to hold off.

I appreciated her telling us in person so we could share in the excitement with them.  They shared the news with in-laws a little over a month later.  If it had been my SIL (husband's sister) she definitely would've jumped in and told everyone right then and there. SIL announced her engagement at our wedding several years earlier for many of the reasons some PPs have suggested OP's SIL shared her news in her hospital room - because everyone was gathered together, etc.  What I've learned over the years is that SIL desperately needs to be center of her parents attention.  She told her whole family about her engagement when it happened (except DH and I) and then blurted it out during a dinner for me, hosted by my mother, with only my aunts/cousins/sister in attendance two days before my wedding.  It was so awkward I felt bad for her and my MIL.  During the dinner my cousin asked how DH had proposed and before I could finish answering, SIL thrust her hand out and announced she'd gotten engaged two days earlier.  My aunts, cousins, mother and myself all proceeded to congratulate her and ask her how it went down, etc..  I shared the news with her brother (my future DH) later that evening.  Her other brother announced it to anyone who hadn't already heard the news during his best man speech at our reception.

I absolutely despise being center of attention and I don't think that is what is driving OPs feelings.  It was rude to my mother and to me for my SIL to share her news the way she did.  My SIL could've announced her engagement during the brunch her parents were hosting for mostly her family and friends the day after our wedding.  Or she could've told us via phone the day it happened like she did with her parents and other brother.  Similarly, OPs SIL could've shared the news the next day or the next time they all gathered together rather than in OP's hospital room.

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