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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] It's about BOTH of us. I don't want to think of other parents in her classroom looking at the class list at the start of the school year and deciding based on her name, to not invite her for a playdate. Or of teachers presuming bad behavior because of her name. Or yes, her name on a resume. When DH told his boss, as his boss shook his hand congrats he asked what her name was. When DH told him, his boss winced. Then said, "Whoa, rough start to life in more ways than one, huh?" We get comments like that from basically everyone when they find out her name. [/quote]

Based on this info from the OP, I would definitely change her name.  The reality is that people do make assumptions about others based on names.  It may not be right, but it's reality.  This little girl was born into a set of circumstances where it's possible that no one would think twice about her name.  She is being adopted into a completely different set of circumstances, and her name could be a hindrance.  Why take the chance?  Choose a name with some connection or similarity to the previous name - same letters, more traditional spelling or pronunciation, whatever.  Though it may be difficult not to completely change the name if it's something like Mistee Rainn or Destini Blue. [/quote]

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