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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,
Most of your discontent has to do with sex. It is mentioned over and over. How often are you getting it on now? Did you feel rejected when it was less and did that play into your feelings changing? His saying you have no problems or whatever sounds pretty dismissive. What IS working about your relationship? What are specific things you want from him and have you asked for them?[/quote]

OP here. DH wants sex. I am the one who doesn't want it. When I was pregnant, I didn't want it either. I was too busy puking. I had terrible morning sickness all day and night.

I'm 33 and fairly attractive. I am back down to 120 pounds and a size 4. I can't help but think DH is not my soul mate and someone out there can make me happier. If it weren't for the kids, I would have left long ago. I don't doubt we can make it work in the short term but I am certain we won't last forever. If I know we will most likely separate, I would prefer to do it when I am still relatively young.

My unhappiness has little to do with sex. I am emotionally unhappy. Secondly, I feel like my sex drive is nonexistent. I am assuming my lack of physical attraction has to do with my mental dislike for my husband.[/quote]

I met husband in college - married right after graduation at 22 years old.  He was kind of socially awkward but driven academically.  I was attracted to the fact that he had a great work ethic.  Two kids and 20 years later I am in a similar situation to you.

We've had sex maybe 5 times in the last year.  I really can't stand him touching me and dream of having an affair.  His driven work ethic has come to bite us in the butt.  He's worked his way up and is rewarded handsomely $$$ - we have nearly 10M in networth - but he's spent a lot of time in the office, travelling and too stressed out on the weekends to participate in family activities.  But, honestly I don't see myself leaving as I've been a SAHM for nearly 15 years and he is not at all abusive - I just don't like/love him.  Although I have a master's degree, I have no current job skills and would need to go back to college to support myself if I did leave.  I also think about our kids.  I tolerate him in front of them and we seem like the perfect family.  Like him and his job, I have decided to put my efforts into volunteering, our kids and their schools and meeting friends for coffee/lunch but I have no clue what I will do when the kids are out of the house.      [/quote]

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