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No, it's not pain, it's jelaousy, plain and simple. Yet everybody is supposed to play along. Next thing you know, pregnant women will have to apologize to everyone unhappy with their own number od children.[/quote]

Sure, it's jealousy.  Human beings experience jealousy.  We try to tell ourselves to get over it.  When you are dealing with infertility, it is not that simple.  Watching everyone else get pregnant, constantly seeing pregnancies in the news, knowing that the grandchild you've been trying for for years will not be the first grandchild, may not ever exist.... No, none of these thoughts or feelings are admirable.  People who feel them don't WANT to feel them.  That just adds guilt on top of all the other negative emotions you are feeling.

It's a very tough situation for everyone.  I would just let the SIL go her own way.  Enjoy your baby and pregnancy, remember to think about compassion for others, including SIL, even if she's not capable of extending the same compassion to you right now.

I agree with OP that it seems extreme to ignore the pregnancy of your kin.  But you have to understand OP that SIL and your brother are in a terrible dark place right now.  Not everyone is capable of being gracious in these circumstances.  Just accept that and go about your baby business.  [/quote]

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