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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised by how much people here don't value being close to family. Yes, in SD they would be near her husband's parents. But that's it. Here they have aunts, uncles and cousins too -- a whole tribe. I never had that growing up around here, and I know that my parents really missed their family in Boston. As I kid I didn't think about it much one way or another, but now as an adult I think how nice it would have been to have really gotten to know all of the aunts, uncles and cousins who lived there. They're all still close as adults, and though I love them we have a more distant relationship. I feel very lucky that my parents and siblings and their families are now all in this area, and I hope that everyone stays here and my kids can grow up with extended family in a way I didn't.[/quote]

No one here has said they don't value being close to family - just that, as an adult, you have to make the best decision for yourself and your children, and that shouldn't be based solely on where your family lives.  Lots of us have lived away from family and managed not to just survive, but thrive.  Life is what you make of it and OP is thinking too small.  Her DH will grow to resent her, without a doubt.[/quote]

Why is she thinking too small? Why is San Diego necessarily the best decision? Is a 10 percent raise and the [i]chance[/i] of further growth really that enticing? [b]Her DH is in government contracting and there's as much, if not more, opportunity around here as in San Diego.[/b] It's not like she refuses to leave her small hometown in the Midwest. I would think that a large, close, loving nearby family could easily tip the balance in favor of DC. Life is indeed what you make of it. That doesn't mean it's about maximizing earning potential at all costs.[/quote] Um, wouldn't her husband be in the best position to judge this for himself. Seeing as he is the one doing the work?  I mean, how would YOU know where his job opportunities are pp?[/quote]

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