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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] most of the Indians I know from my parents' generation involve a dad who is an engineer and a sahm.[/quote]

This varies with geography. Most Indians I knew growing up -- engineer dad; mom who stayed at home for a while through elementary and then picked up whatever job she could. So there were lots of moms working part time retail, or in banks, insurance companies, hospitals etc. in general admin jobs. Mom's job was secondary and usually only to be able to save extra money (for college, family, whatever), and thus moms were still around to be involved in kid's schoolwork.

I didn't know a lot of dual professional Indian households but there were a few -- 2 doctor or engineer/dr. families -- and they had the hardest balance in terms working and still making sure their kids were being educated as they wanted.[/quote]

The dual working families usually had family support in the form of grandparents who come and stay for six months at a stretch alternating. Until they get their green card. Cooking, inventory management, homework is often managed by the grandparent unit and supplemented by the parent when they came home. [/quote]

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Basically the whole family is focused on helping the next generation get ahead. For the current generation of immigrants (people in late 30s and 40s) working here, the grand parents also provide the emotional stability of having a not hired person whose primary focus is the kids. THey act as a buffer to the stress of dual working couple juggling everything. Its a much more efficient system than just hiring people, because incentives are completely aligned here. Also many couples without family support, are often high enough in SES that they are able to at least hire a housekeeper to cook and clean and do the grunt work so they can focus on the kids.

I agree that it will eventually break down. I don't see many of my friends who are doctors, scientist etc whose parents currently help them, taking the time to do the same for their children in 30 years - they will most likely still be earning or won't find it intellectually stimulating enough. Most of their mom's were SAHM for long periods so doing it for the next generations isn't a huge change. [/quote]

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