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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless you expect you DC to remain a virgin until married, the "what if the condom breaks" issue doesn't go away when they turn 18.  I don't want my DC to get pregnant in college, either.  Given that goal, what is the best way to achieve it?

The MIT jab is hysterical.  DD is at the top of her class and had phenomenal SATs.  I have no doubt about her ability to get into a fantastic college (though she has no interest in MIT, so you are right that your kid will get in there before mine).  Kids who have sex get into all sorts of top schools.  But the college doesn't matter.  If my child were a student with lower grades, I would still not want her to get pregnant.[/quote]

This is where we come back to my original premise that I just don't believe you exist. You propose a seemingly ideal situation in which your brilliant DD maintains stellar grades while keeping her perfect boyfriend sexually satisfied and never ever worrying about pregnancy and/or STDs because they are both so responsible. Let me guess: your DH is perfect, too, right? Where do you get this stuff? Romance novels? Because you really stretch credulity.

Here's my reality: DH and I are lawyers who want our kids to go to MIT and don't want pregnancy and/or STDs to stand in their way, so they can focus on condoms when they're of legal age to buy them on their own. Right now, our kids are in elementary school, so it's not an issue, but when the time comes, bedroom doors will stay open and boyfriends/girlfriends will stay downstairs. Since we generally associate with people of similar backgrounds and ambitions for their own kids, we're sure to find like minded parents when the time comes.

Believe what you want about how you define "maturity" and "committed relationships," but I think you're either fictional or just plain wrong.[/quote]

It's clear your kids are young and you're pretty clueless about teenagers. Your kids are going to have their own ideas about where they want to go to college. Maybe they will hate math and science and want to go to art school. Who knows, but don't expect to dictate where they go to college.
 Also, your connection between pregnancy/STDs and not going to MIT is pretty bizarre. Obviously no parent wants their kid to get pregnant or cause a pregnancy, but if it happens they will have much bigger problems than it just interfering with the college admissions process.
 FYI: there is no "legal age" to buy condoms. Anyone of any age can buy them
If you want to tell your kids not to have sex before marriage or before college or not allow a boyfriend/girlfriend in a bedroom that's your decision, but don't expect "people of similar backgrounds and similar ambitions for their kids" to feel the same way about many of these difficult parenting issues.  At our private school, we are surrounded by parents with similar backgrounds who all have very high "ambitions" for their kids, but are not necessarily like minded when it comes to under-age drinking, smoking pot, parents being home or sex. Also, generally we don't discuss our kids potential sex life with other parents.
Best of luck with your MIT bound kids and your like minded parents.[/quote]

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