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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Their issue is that it's a blended family (wanna guess why his first marriage fell apart?). He feels overburdened by all the kiddos, and possibly some spousal support, and married her only under the condition she wouldn't cost him more money. That's my guess, anyway.

My second guess is that once her children are old enough, she'll be out of there.[/quote]

I earn $250k+.  The burden is no issue.  There is no spousal support.  And there were no conditions about extra costs.

She and I are very happy, have a warm and honest relationship with lots of hot sex.

I dont know why I expected anything else from this discussion though, ad hominem is the only route people take here [b]rather than actually considering the question. [/b] I know the question hits home, obviously.  Not a single person has put forth a rational argument as to why a wife shouldn't contribute 50/50 or why she would literally be entitled to a subsidy.  Name calling emotional responses, mentions of the 'way it should be' etc - but no real argument.

The only one that actually made any sense had to do with child bearing but I hardly doubt that most woman want to reduce their relationships with their husbands to an exchange like that - i.e. wife gets additional income in exchange for child rearing.

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because your "question" is beside the point. normal people do not pose or think about such questions. it never occured to me (or my husband) to demand any kind of split - we simply married because we liked spending time together. the rest of the things (money, childcare, house chores etc) have just worked themselves out (for almost 20 years).

on the other hand, you are obviously very invested into it, both in the real life and here, and one has to wonder why.[/quote]

no you never considered it, likely because you just assumed that you were entitled to all his earnings without any question, right?

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Entitled in what sense? What questions would i need to ask to be entitled?

We make significant purchase decisions together, the rest just flows somehow. We have separate accounts, btw, but I don't even know my own passwords for my accounts. He tells me when I get my salary deposited, because he is more conscientious about online security and such. I have no clue how we split costs, honesty, just that we never had any issues.[/quote]

I appreciate your honesty.

Did you two live together before you got married?[/quote]

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