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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]ok so now that you've talked about it and its out in the open, why dont you really question why you need to monopolize your husband's entire sexuality?

assuming you dont question his faithfulness, what is this really about?

is he "allowed" to look at porn?

is he "allowed" to look at a Sports Illustrated swim suit issue?

is he "allowed" to look at a woman walking down the street?

is he "allowed" to look at cheerleaders at a football game?

is he "allowed" to be aware of any other female on the planet and perhaps consider that they may be sexual beings?[/quote]

The issue isn't about you and I agreeing on what we find disrespectful and what is okay.  NO, I don't appreciate him looking at other women and he doesn't appreciate me looking at other men.  Period.  Yes, we are both human and sexual beings.  I see other men that I find attractive. I am sure he has found other women attractive and when I am not with him he probably does look at women that he wouldn't otherwise gawk at in front of me.  We have watched porn together.  But each couple has their own guidelines and ideas of what is okay and what is not.  For the most part he and I are on the same page and have mutual feelings about how much we care about who or what the other is looking at.
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The other possibility -- no, [i]probability[/i] -- is that these are [i]your[/i] guidelines that you have dictated and he feels browbeaten so he placates you to keep the peace. My guess is there's only one page you can both be on -- [i]yours[/i] and if he dares to even think differently, you'll respond with snooping, badgering, and long, exhausting "talks."

You know, kind of like what happened here.

He'll explode on your in a couple of years and walk out on you. Mark my words.[/quote]

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