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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Amen to 19:36.  Another adoptive mom here.  Letting kids be shuttled in and out of foster care on the hope and the prayer that the dysfunctional bio-family "gets it together" does nothing but create more problems for the kids---and if they are shuttled long enough---they are no longer viable candidates for adoption because their attachment and behavior issues are so ingrained that few adoptive parents will take them on.  Better to have the kids be adopted at birth.  My kids would have been much, much better off had that happened.  Instead, because of the early neglect and subsequent abandonment ---it is much harder for them to heal.  They are just starting to understand that given the fact that their bio-mom was a teenager and desperately poor---with no solid family support---there was no way she could have realistically raised them.

Much better for them to have been adopted as infants and then told that their bio-mom loved them enough to find them a family that could care for them, instead of neglecting them to the point they were removed from her.  Not all biological families should be reunited.[/quote]
Foster care is designed to be temporary, kids are sent to their own homes after a while. They do not all get sent in and out of foster care. Sometimes the social workers make mistakes and take kids into care on false claims. Often times the bio family does get it together

Adopted kids also end up in foster care and some are also abused. All foster care kids do not have teen mothers. Some have old mothers.
Desperately poor teen mothers are going to continue to be poor and desperate even if their kids are adopted. Some are great mothers despite their circumstances. Money is not everything. Realistically, people all over the world raise kids and they do not all fit the wealth norms of middle class America, and their kids grow up to be fine adults[/quote]

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