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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a bio kid and love him to pieces, but I often am so tired from being a parent. I think I put too much burden on myself too often - I breastfed until three, I didn't do any sleep training, I didn't work FT since he was born, I didn't put him in daycare until three, etc. I just couldn't do it differently, I probably wouldn't change a thing, but it is such a drag, I am tired of parenting. I like co sleeping and taking my kid places, but that's about it. The rest is boring and meaningless.

I often think that maybe I would have been better off adopting- I would have FF, sleep trained,  hired a nanny and gone back to work. This is what I secretly want to do- spend maybe an hour or two a day with my child and outsource the rest. But I just can't do this to him, he needs his mom :(
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This is the oddest post of all, with oh-so-many assumptions, I don't even know where to begin.  Well, I guess I'll just start with the assumption that WOHMs have it so easy b/c they "outsource" all of the daily childcare and spend just an hour or two with their children.  Then I'll move on to the assumption that this is sa horrible thing to do "to" a child.  Then I'll move on to the judgment that a child "needs his mom" more than this.

And I haven't even gotten to the topic of adoption yet.

The judgments in paragraphs 1 and 2 also have lots of fodder for analysis and judgment but I won't even get into those.

You pretty much could write about a 10-pp term paper picking apart the motherhood assumptions dripping with self-satisfaction in this lady's posting.  Good luck with your one bio child who apparently takes so much out of you.[/quote]

Oh please.
I only said it would have been easier FOR ME.
I am in no position to judge how people raise their kids or whether they have it easy or not.[/quote]

Oh please yourself. You're saying that you would indifferent to an adoptive child's needs whereas your bio child "needs his mom." You are despicable, and your child knows you hate parenting him and is simultaneously becoming stunted emotionally from your smothering. You'd be better off going to work to save up for his therapy.[/quote]

Well don't kids who are sleep trained and  in full time daycare turn out ok? I think they do. 
One thing that struck me- why would I pay for my adult child's therapy, even if he needs one eventually? [/quote]

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