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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

As an initial matter, I haven't posted a response yet on this thread. I'm sure it angers some that there are others who are writing that they, too, struggle with these questions. But those are posts by strangers, not by me. And I think it goes to show there are serious questions here.

As I mentioned in my first post, I am a healthy weight. I eat very well, exercise. I agree that some skinny people are less healthy than fat people who exercise, but is anyone really suggesting that fat people who exercise are healthier than skinny people who exercise. I hope not because that's absurd. Obviously there are benefits to controlling weight that are separate and apart from just eating well (and honestly if you're eating and exercising well you are probably controlling your weight). As I said, I am by no means a size 2.

But I do worry that this whole "big is beautiful" movement that has sprung up is dangerous to young people today. I don't want my son to have the delusion that being overweight or obese is anything but unhealthy. That's all it is.

I of course would never call someone fat or accept my child doing so. But as one other poster mentioned, really, isn't the fact that I wouldn't call someone that or allow him to do so a sign of the problem. It's the truth, isn't it? The substance in their body that makes them bigger is called "fat," yet we are in such a pc culture now about weight that you can't call a spade a spade without being a "bully."

What I fear is that my son will say something inadvertent,  not that he will say something purposefully mean (like calling someone "fat and ugly.") Let's say he gets made fun of in the lunch room for eating vegetables and hummus instead of potato chips, and when asked why he eats those things he says he's eating that way so that he does not become fat. In light of the current response schools have toward bullying, I could imagine if one of those taunting him was overweight or obese that he would get in trouble for it. That is my concern - not that he would call someone fat to their face - that's just stupid.

I am grateful to the poster who asked if anyone wanted to have a serious conversation about these issues. I think the responses make clear my point. We are so damn pc now, fat is beautiful, people who are skinny are the freaks, and if you say boo about the health issues with being overweight and obesity you are a bully.[/quote]

I support you, OP. This forum is full of judgy and misguided PC Nazis, as you now know. [/quote]

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