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And to the wedding poster, you are not alone.  I paid for everything for my wedding, but I was financially established and "old".  Drove me crazy when my parents paid for not one, but TWO full white weddings with sit down dinner and orchestra for my sister - and she was 40!  Prodigal daughter here.
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That woulld have driven me even more nuts.  My parents were equally cheap with both of us and I was definitely the more successful one.  Btw, my dad offered to pay for my wedding dress if he picked it out.  I said no thanks I'll buy my own wedding dress thank you.  Also to the poster who worked their way through grad school, I did do.  My parents are really into to show.  They didn't help at all with school but we went to a pizza place after graduation and offered to pick up the tab only because there were aunts and uncles there too.  There was no way that people who were antihelp with grad school were going to take credit for the dinner.  I bit my tongue enough at my wedding.[/quote]

I so relate.  Prodigal daughter here.  That's funny that your dad said he would pay but only if he picked it out.  No one offered me ANYTHING (BTW, have your watched "Say Yes to the Dress"?  My daughter and I watch it every Friday night just to laugh at the silliness.  Sure, drop $28K on a bridal gown.  And why do you all have sausage arms at only 26?).  So in the midst of doing all the planning and payment and organizing for my wedding while working fulltime until the day before the wedding, my father-in-law-to-be tells my husband-to-be that he thinks it is a mistake for us to be spending "so much" on a wedding.  Hullo.  I'm 38.  You're not dropping a dime on this wedding and you are telling me, a mature professional, a partner with a paid-off home, via husband-to-be that a $25K wedding (including everything, even orchestra) fully paid for the bride at my chosing was out of line?  Pissed me off then, pissed me off now.  Then my parents go off and cover the costs again for my sister's second big wedding at 41.  Huge affair at the Ritz.  She even wore a white veil.  Life can be very unfair.  Moral of the story:  shut up if you are the in-laws and not offering to help with expenses.  And treat all your kids exactly the same way.[/quote]

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