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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I paid for our wedding but it never would have occurred to us not to list our parents because they raised us.  Is money the only thing that matters?  I understand why OP and her DH feel humiliated.[/quote]

You understand because that's the way you traditionally think invites should be worded. Ive received enough invites to know that there are many ways to properly write a wedding invite. Many posters have said that according to what they think is tradition, whoever is hosting the wedding (read: paying for it) is on the invite. It has nothing to do with "money being all that matters" and everything to do with the wedding hosts and the couple's perception of what is traditional.

The normal way to react to this would be to not take it personally, but to assume that the bride and her family were of the mindset (like many others) that whoever is paying is the one listed. Particularly since you have a cultural/religiosity difference here, you can't rithtly assume that people who don't know your traditions are going to behave exactly the way you would. A mature response would have been to first, realize its not a big deal because really who looks at an invite longer than enough to read where and when to show up? And secondly, if it really bothered you, maybe mention to your son that you feel a little hurt. He would say "oh my goodness we didn't even realize!" And that would be that.

You obviously have a lot more issues with this than just the invite wording and frankly you sound like you are determineed to have your feelings hurt no matter what. But really, this is such a tiny issue and is so likely not to have been meant as a personal affront I hope you'll let it go. [/quote]

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