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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not looking forward to retirement because, like a PP said, I've done it all before hand.[b] I did all my running around and traveling the world and dating before I had kids. I now look very forward to having my young kids and one on the way.[/b] I love to work, I love having a family and I get a terrible sense of dread thinking about "retiring". Nothing worse in my mind than loafing around with a bunch of old fogies when I could be taking my kids snowboarding or to lacrosse games.[/quote]

So you stopped living once you became a mom? I became a mom in my 20s and the fun didnt stop nor did the globe-trotting. My social life has always been very important to me. You can still be a great mom and still make time for outside activities. My parents were young parents (I was away in college by their late 30s) and they had lots of fun together and with friends. My mom would take us out alll day on Saturday and run us ragged and we'd go to aunts/uncles house and play with cousins until we passed out there. The next weekend, my mom would have my cousins over and we'd all play outside and bake cookies before my mom gave us "makeovers" (manis/pedis/light makeup). Our grandparents would steal us for long weekends often and who the hell knew what our parents were up to. We didn't care! I do/did the same today with my family.

Of course you would look forward to having kids now, you hadn't experienced it previously. Many younger parents look forward to being empty nesters because they have teens. One deserves some solitude after dealing with teens and hormones, at any age.lol It doesn't mean we've never had lives of our own before. I know someone dig being martyrs, but I'm not one of them.[/quote]

I'm 20:14 and I absolutely agree with you. I'm not sure why some older Moms assume we haven't lived (or aren't living) if we had children in our 20s. My family life is very similar to yours and I love it. My DH and I are planning such a weekend as you describe next weekend (sleepover at grandparents who are in their mid-50's) while we have some adult fun. We also plan to go on a adults-only 4 day trip to San Francisco next month. Family life, alone time and travel is very important to us and we plan our lives to enjoy all of these things.

Like you mention, and I think this is key, most of these women haven't experienced raising teenagers. Everything can seem rosy when you're in the 4-10 age groove. I have two teen daughters (one of which is all about the "Breakfast Club" style of teenage angst) and I love them dearly, but when they leave for college, I'll be both sad and relieved. LOL[/quote]

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