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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's one thing to have a child at 41 and quite another dealing with that same child at 50+. [b]Sounds hellish[/b].[/quote]
You know the child ages as well, right? There's nothing all that hard about having a 10 yr old when you're 50 or a 20 yr old when you're 60.  Unless you don't want to, then don't, of course.  [/quote]
One woman's hell is another's heaven.  I'm in heaven.  [/quote]

Good for y'all, but when I'm 50+ I want my days of dealing with teenhood well behind me and look forward to being in a place where it's just about me and DH and spending time together. Different strokes, I guess. [/quote]

Yup! And yours sounds pretty boring.[/quote]

Sounds boring? Really? I think it sounds great. I'll be able to vacation with just hubby and spend well-earned alone time with him. I'll hopefully watch my children marry and have children. I'll babysit and they'll hopefully take family vacations with us.

For me, 50+ will be all about taking things at a slower more leisurely pace, not shuttling kids to sports practices and school events. I would, however, love attending these and/or doing these things for any grandchildren. [/quote]

See, some of us had our 20s when we were in our 20s. If you missed being a carefree 20-something in your 20s, it's all good, you can try to fill that in when you are in your 50s.  For others, though, it seems entirely reasonable to be raising kids in our 50s, because we've sown our oats and enjoy having kids around now.[/quote]

Actually, I'll be 45, so not exactly, old right? I had fun in my 20s (which was admittedly sophomoric fun) and look forward to having fun in my 40's as well. [b]It doesn't have to be an either/or thing. [/b]Not everyone is wild and irresponsible in their 20's. Family is very important to me and I pray that I continue to have good health and get to play an active role in the lives of my grandchildren. [/quote]

Oh, really? Having children and "having fun" is either mutually exclusive or not. Your argument was that poor older parents will suffer in their fifties and sixties because they will have to take care of the children reveals that you believe that, in fact, it is not compatible. If so, it was not compatible for you in your twenties, either.

Personally, I believe that there exists a certain type of a woman (quite common in the lower IQ group) that is completely unburdened by any need to think about deeper issues in life. It is probably best for that kind of a woman to start reproducing early on. But - and you have to trust me on this, as you have never experienced it - there are women out there that are actually smart and talented. They face a different set of issues, and your life path is extremely unappealing.[/quote]

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