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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex (37) and I were together on and off for 2.5 years (we started off casual, why the off). He had been divorced almost 3 years by the time we started seeing each other. He told me he didn’t really want to get remarried again, unless she was pregnant (his ex wife decided after they were married she didn’t want kids - why they broke up). 2 years into our relationship I got pregnant. I told him and he didn’t immediately jump for joy, or say anything really except for “okay”, so I reacted very quickly and told him I wasn’t going to keep it. To which he said, “I’ll support whatever you decide”. So, I got an abortion. Our relationship took a nose dive after this. We had been fighting before this, but after this, it got a lot worse. We had a blow up and he told me he couldn’t do it anymore in mid-July 2024.

I find out that October he was in a relationship with someone else and they started seeing each other in late August. They announced their engagement in February this year, and then announced the pregnancy a week ago. She looks so pretty far along, like 8/9 months far along. This means she’s been pregnant since last year, which also means she got pregnant within a year of them being together. Today I find out that they’re officially married? Apparently this is someone he met/has known since college.…

Honestly, I’m crushed. How could he move on so quickly and in such a major way? It hasn’t even been a full two years since we broke up. I got pregnant first but she gets the family and the marriage? My head is spinning a bit.[/quote]

There are some lessons learned here:

1. [b]If you want to get married, don’t date a man who tells you at the outset that he doesn’t want that unless the woman is pregnant.  [/b]

2. Don’t get pregnant unless you’re both on board with it and want to be together. It’s not clear if you got pregnant on purpose, but you said you wanted to marry him, the relationship wasn’t going well, you knew he would only marry a woman if she was pregnant, and you thought he would be thrilled when you told him about your pregnancy. This suggests you got pregnant on purpose and this is a really bad idea in this situation.

Forget about this man, learn from this situation, and focus on finding a man who wants the same things you do.  [/quote]

My read on the bolder was he really wanted kids and not to deal with infertility issues. Like seriously only marrying a certified breeder.[/quote]

As evidenced by the fact that he got 2 women pregnant before marriage.

Trashy.  I wouldn’t be interested.  Be grateful, OP. [/quote]

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