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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reason you know the DH dropped the ball here is because if the situation were reversed, no one would blame the DH, it would be on OP.

Like if OP's ILs lived locally and her parents lived 4 hours away, and then invited the local ILs to the party and not her own parents, and then her mom called in tears because she'd been left out, no one, and I mean no one, would say "Well why didn't your DH anticipate that your parents would be upset about this and insist on inviting them?" It sounds absurd just thinking about it. It would be on OP for not considering that her parents would feel left out specifically because the ILs were invited and that even if they couldn't come, they'd want to feel like they were wanted. No one would expect her husband to anticipate that! It's absurd.

Yet people will sit here and accuse OP of intentionally leaving out her ILs or of being callous or neglectful for not inviting them when it was within her husband's power the entire time to just let them know the party was happening and tell them they are of course welcome but also that everyone understands it's a long drive.

Also the people claiming a child's 7th birthday party is a very important family event are nuts. Unless you only have one grandchild in the whole family, that is a minor event. The kid won't even remember it in a few years. If in a one-grandchild family, I think it's minimally important. It would be okay for no grandparents to come and to just send cards or gifts and FaceTime the day of. It's not high school graduation.[/quote]

We don't know the DH dropped the ball. It would be nice if OP came back and told us who effed up and told the in-laws about it in the first place. OP can be reporting all this 2nd hand and all of this is from her DH who told her they were offended. Quite a lot of missing details here. But, if you don't want the blowback don't be an exclusive jerk in the first place. An invite you know they wouldn't accept anyway would have gone a long way.[/quote]

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