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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems kind of unfair to put down spouse A for making pre-prepared dinners when they WOH AND are responsible for getting kids to all their activities on weekdays.  [/quote]

Agree. This makes no sense at all. The WAH should do dinners, can just be crock pot or something simple. If I hustle to leave the office at 5, pick up kids from school and then get home. THEN I have to make dinner and then drive the kids to practice? This makes no sense. What is the WAH spouse doing at this time?[/quote]

I guarantee that this is exactly what spouse A wants, for spouse B to pick up either meal prep or taking kids to activities since these are the hardest things for someone working full time in person to do, and spouse B resents it because, while they might not say it out loud, they believe their higher income should exempt them from these particular glamour-free parenting tasks. Even though logistically it makes way more sense for them to do them.

Just wait until spouse A finds out spouse B is using the time that spouse A is spending on driving the kids around and picking up dinner to work out, relax, or pursue a hobby. Because spouse B feels they are entitled to this leisure time, due to their income, whereas spouse A has to "pay the family back" for making less by doing more of the grunt work.[/quote]
Yikes, what a mindset. I do a LOT more of the grunt work, so my spouse makes sure that weekends are mine to work out, relax, or pursue a hobby, often at their expense. I think this is not the fairest arrangement to them and am working to change it so they can have more weekend down time, but am so exhausted I am gratefully accepting this gift for now[/quote]

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