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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, of course my daughter is capable of learning to cook. But when she's at her dad's house, she's still the child and he's the parent, so I think it's reasonable for him to make meals she'll actually eat. She shouldn’t have to make all her meals for herself at her age, I certainly didn’t.

She's 16, which is old enough to help in the kitchen, but she's still a kid. Her dad tends to cook a lot of fish (which she hates), salmon, and vegetable-heavy meals. Occasionally he'll make things like chicken, rice, burgers, or pizza, which she enjoys, but his diet is generally very different from hers.

My daughter isn’t a picky eater and eats a pretty wide range of foods. Sliders with mini beef or chicken burgers on sweet Hawaiian rolls, grilled chicken or steak skewers, Pasta dishes ( chicken Alfredo with fettuccine, lasagna, chicken Parmesan over marinara pasta, baked ziti with a cheesy mozzarella topping, penne alla vodka with chicken in a pink tomato-cream sauce, and chicken bacon ranch pasta bakes, etc). Tacos and burritos with beef or chicken and toppings she can add herself, chicken quesadillas, and chicken wraps. Teriyaki chicken over white rice, ramen with sliced chicken and egg, baked mac and cheese, beef and bean chili with cornbread, chicken noodle soup with thick egg noodles, and BBQ foods like ribs or grilled chicken served with fries. Overall, she’s pretty easy to feed and is happy with a variety of proteins, pastas, rice dishes, soups.

At this point, I think I just need to actually go and make meals for her once a week, and have her eat those meals throughout the week, or try my best to convince him to change up what he eats on the days she’s there, or ask him to make her something different.[/quote]

Well after reading this I’m team dad. 
Some of the things you posted are easy to make. I’d tell the dad to please have tortillas /cheese/chicken etc on hand so she can make a burrito or whatever. But if he doesn’t eat carb heavy food or French fries he shouldn’t be forced to make it because that’s what she likes.[/quote]
You think it’s reasonable to make fish every night when she doesn’t like fish?[/quote]

My sisters husband is Asian and you bet he wants fish every night. If his daughter refused to eat it, or vegetables, he’d keep pushing it until she did. Only in America do people write off entire food groups in favor of sliders and French fries nightly.[/quote]

I'm American, and my parents raised me the same way.  If you don't want the salmon and vegetables that we prepared, then you can go to bed hungry.  Not all Americans let their kids live off mac and cheese and beef sliders. [/quote]

Agreed. White bread American here. You eat dinner or there's nothing else coming. I do have an "unlimited" shelf in my fridge that kids can help themselves to, but OP's DD wouldn't be a fan. It's in season vegetables cut up, plus carrots. There's always a bowl with apples, oranges and bananas out too. Or they're welcome to have more servings of dinner.

And yes, fish is totally normal. We eat fish twice a week. Smoked salmon is my kids #1 requested meal. While we like and enjoy pasta or French fries, they aren't made often because they're just not that healthy. And yes, my DH is an athlete and needs to eat a lot of calories. You don't have to get all the calories from carbs.

My dad (autistic) has extreme food aversions that he had since childhood. He's been working with an occupational therapist and the results have been incredible. From what I've seen, it involved trying small portions of food and creating better associations. He's gone from gagging to now eating normal food like pasta, sour cream and sushi (and this is at 65! Never too old I guess). It makes me think that picky eating can be worked on by ensuring small exposures to kids and making food a positive thing. I feel like too many parents try fish once with their kids and "my kid hates fish."[/quote]

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