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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP should not wait for him to file.  She should file for two things:

1) Temporary custody orders that prevent the children from spending the night, or more than a certain number of nights out of state without written consent from the other parent.

2) Freezing bank accounts and assets.

She should also consider that, unless there is abuse, it will be in the best interest of the kids to spend time with both parents.  If he's moving out of state, then extended stays during school breaks, that start now while they're still used to living with him, are probably going to be part of that.  So, the goal probably shouldn't be to prevent him from taking them to the new state for a visit this summer.  It should be to make sure that if he takes them, he takes them with official documentation that he has committed to returning them on a certain date, and a court order that means that if he tries to keep them and enroll them in school in the other state he is in contempt.

And yes, there's a good chance that he is already planning to return them, probably even better than the chance that he isn't.  But as parents we take steps all the time to prevent unlikely occurrences.  It's unlikely that your kid will be in an accident on their bike today, but you probably still make them wear a helmet, because bike crashes are real possibilities, even if they happen less than 50%.  There is a real possibility that he is trying to position himself for primary custody, and OP should protect against that.  [/quote]

Agree

Given his threat and disclosure that he intends to divorce, relocate, and have the kids all summer, do the above. 
Then he either files or comes clean with his hidden agenda. [/quote]

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