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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  What is the "right" thing to do at this point?[/quote]

Well, at this point your daughter is 1, so I doubt you have to tell her anything right now.

Other than providing financial support (which I actually don't agree with), the biological father owes you and your daughter nothing so trying to force him in her life is unfair and will likely have bad results. He didn't want the baby, you did. Now, it's time for you to raise the child.

When your DD gets to an age where she asks about her father you can tell her some version of the truth. When you decided to give birth against his wishes, you decided to handle all this on your own. Now get to it. [/quote]

This is PP who was the result of adultery herself.  This is just awful advice.  Growing up without a father (and being abandoned), I promise you, that the father DOES IN FACT owe that child something. He chose to have the sex, there are consequences to that. Just because HE didn't want the child doesn't mean he wasn't willing to pony up the sex. He needs to grow up and take responsibility for his actions, both through financial support and being there.

OP, you are killing me.  Fight for your daughter for fucks sake.  Tell him that he cannot leave her to feel abandoned and that you'll fight it, and him, if he does.  Fuck your confidentiality clause. Unless it set you daughter financially for life, it's a worthless piece of paper and why the HELL did you sign it?!  For now, with her so young, you don't need to be worrying about what to tell her.  You need to be forcing that man to be a father.

Grow up.  Jesus.[/quote]

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