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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Well my parents are from a third world country but live in the Gulf states right now since my brother has a good job there and has sponsored my mother and college aged sister to live there until she moved here on an F-1 for Nova.

She is bright, has a 4.0 and worked her last year at NOVA on campus as allowed by her visa type. But it was part time and just pocket money mostly.

My siblings and I pay for her flights back and forth and my rich sister pays for her food, clothing and incidental expenses.

I married an American when I was in my twenties and we have since divorced but I obtained citizenship which is why I am still in the US. My other sister here did the same.

My rich sister is asking me to contribute $2,200 per semester to my sister's tuition and she and our brother can contribute the rest and that should cover her tution...we still do not have a plan for her room and board. My rich sister is asking college sister to call the schools and discuss RA options. [/quote]

Then you have to decide if you're willing to contribute that amount.

Still strange that she didn't do anything worthwhile for 3 years after high school. And she couldn't get to universities in the Gulf states? Yes, paying for undergrad as an international student on an F-1 is going to be costly. [/quote]

OP here. I have proposed that. We initially brought her here as she was depressed as she graduated HS and my father was sick and had no money to send her to a college. She just sat at home and hid in her room.

After our father died, my other sister in the US and I brought her over to get her out of a sad situation and a change of scenery. My sister also moved into a house so she had a spare room and it all worked out. It was a lot for me to contribute to NOVA but I made the sacrifice as it is v important to have the younger sister stand on her two feet.

The Gulf has great universities, my brother went there, but the fact remains that a U.S education is priceless. With a US college degree my sister would have far more employment options around the world than from a B.A from a Gulf university.

It is also a very expensive endeavor which relies on financial help from us older siblings. While I was married I had more money to help my family but as a single woman in NOVA this whole....family project is not something I have the bandwidth for, emotionally or financially. [/quote]

All of your concerns are completely understandable. You have to figure out your own life, plus are saddled with figuring out your sibling's and getting pressured by the family. Not sure if it's at all doable, but putting it out there... could it be realistic for one of you sisters to sponsor the college sister for a green card? Then she should qualify for in-state tuition, which would make all of this much more doable, if the American education is so important. [/quote]
Green card is unrealistic unless the sister is prepared to wait 20 years.[/quote]

Well, then if it's so important to her, she has to find an American husband or a husband from your home country for example who lives here and is legal. Don't you guys do arranged marriages? [/quote]

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