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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just dont care that much about work. I do a good job (and sometimes a great job) but I dont need validation from my employer or to feel happy/fulfilled by my job. IF I wanted a high-paying or intense career then I would have not married or had children. Its not about my husband or his career. I dont have the bandwidth to do both. I would be totally fine with working Trader Joe's stock or checkout line if it paid enough for the lifestyle we have.

I had a delay with finishing college and by my later mid-20s when I completed my undergrad it was try for the MD/PhD route or not. I knew if I started that path then there wouldnt be time/energy for anything else- mostly because of my own shortcomings in energy levels and sleep needs. I also didnt want to have kids and then outsource all of their childrearing and I dont have involved parents so it wasnt going to be family looking after them.

Regardless of my husband's career, if we divorced, I would have the same career. I might pick up another low-key job PT, but the rat race is not for me. Sometimes its just not that deep. I want to be a present parent and wife and a more intense career would make it very difficult (for me, personally) to manage since I have some hyperfocus issues. I would resent the constant feeling of never being able to mindfully be where I am.

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Amazing how many women don't take financial responsibility for themselves and their children.[/quote]

Im sorry- from my post, how did you sum that I dont take financial responsibility for myself and children? Please provide detailed explanation with figures. Oh wait, you cant because your knee jerk reaction is that because I dont care, I dont contribute financially... I do. 45% of the family income and I provide the health insurance (which is better than my husbands fed plan and cheaper). What I detailed was that my husband's career isnt first because I put it ahead of mine, my career is second to my family in priority. If I wanted a career to be first, I would not have had a family.  [/quote]

Yes, my “knee jerk” reaction is that because you don’t care about work and think it’s about validation, that you do not place enough priority on your financial responsibility. [/quote]

That is YOUR reaction. I read that PP simply prioritized what was more important  to them and her kids are still safe financially. NOt everyone wants to make millions at the expense if their time with kids[/quote]

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