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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think women really underestimate the value that men put on sex.  Maybe he feels like you saying that you want to be away from him overnight is like saying that you don’t want to have sex with him that night.  [/quote]

That interpretation would be so much worse.  A guy pouting because he doesn't get sex one night for Mother's Day?[/quote]

I guess I was thinking more like a guy who doesn’t have sex very often because he has three little kids but is thinking that they will have sex on a holiday?  Or is upset that this isn’t something she wants too.  [/quote]

Mother's Day is just about the worst holiday for Dad to be having sex expectations.[/quote]

Agreed.  It’s just a different interpretation on why he was initially disappointed and maybe even why he wanted to hire the babysitter.  Maybe he’s not a lazy jerk who can’t handle being alone with his kids.  [b]Maybe he’s a guy who wants to spend time alone with his wife. [/b]
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Then why doesn't he plan to do that on the other 364 days a year (maybe 363 days if I subtract her birthday) that aren't supposed to be solely about OP? I personally don't really care about Mother's Day. I care about my husband and kids treating me well all year and I take them when I need it. This Mother's Day happens to not be a convenient weekend to do something since I'll be away with the kids at a sporting event, which is totally fine. But if OP, whose full-time job is childcare, asked for one night alone on the one day a year that is supposed to recognize and celebrate what she does, I don't find that remotely unreasonable, and I think her husband is a selfish prick who can't even care for his own children (which is an entire problem in and of itself). Making someone feel bad because THEIR choice of how to spend time on THEIR day is a dick move. Acting like oh I'm so sad you don't want to spend the day with me is a petulant toddler response, not a grown man response. [/quote]

I don’t want to be defending this guy, but it sounds like this was his initial response, and he came around pretty quickly.  
I’m just saying that it’s possible that OP misinterpreted his response, and it isn’t about him not wanting to be with his kids.

Also, not everyone makes plans weeks in advance to spend time alone with their spouse.  
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I wouldn’t say any man insisting on a babysitter when he has to take care of his children for one night has “come around.”[/quote]

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