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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would want to know the other side of the story. My SIL would also call my mom "a narcissist", only because she refused to babysit her kids. They were not her grandkids, she've only seen them twice before the incident, and wasn't comfortable babyssiting kids she barely knew. As a result, our brother got all snippy, that mom ruined his and her plans. I am glad mom stood her ground. So there's barely any relationship now, but to be honest, those two are so toxic, we can live without them in our lives. [/quote]

Exactly. It’s usually not so black and white. [/quote]

Literally OP demanded her DH cut off his mom for disrespecting her, so he is also losing family over “pride”.

I’m not judging who is “right” or what “should” be done in this situation but it’s weird that OP can’t have the slightest bit of understanding about the motivations here. [/quote]
Nowhere did the OP say or even imply she was behind the estrangement. You’re projecting. [/quote]

She specifically said the issue arose because of her. If my MIL said something negative to me, I’d be irritated but I would never ever ever want my DH (or my kids) to cut off a relationship with her. And I would suck it up and move on. Life is too short to get hung up on every last mistake by others.

I’m the one who posted above. I’m older so I’ve seen how these things play out long term. It is not just about you and the other person - you are causing a rippling effect of family dysfunction across other families and even down generations. Cut it out and grow the F up, OP [/quote]

DP and you know what, the "ripple effect" will be that nobody has to deal with your s* any more. Hopefully down the generations. You still don't understand that being old doesn't entitle you to be a jerk. As far as the OP goes, her DH told mom to get a grip. She was not present. The MIL proceeded with the silent treatment, very common for you boomers, in a delusion that the one you insulted will come crawling back to YOU with apologies. My mom is also still waiting, we're 2 years in! You never did figure out that at some point your silent treatment will just lead others to realize that it's nice and pleasant when they don't hear from you. [/quote]

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