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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In reading these posts I see a lot of valid frustrations, but I also see a total lack of empathy for your partner’s experience.  Resentments are building and love is eroding, but the underlying view is I am entitled to more, their life is separate and better than mine.  If you are keeping score in a marriage than you are the reason for the disconnect, nothing your partner says or does will ever even the score because only one person decides what counts and the number of points on the board.   Stop thinking they are the enemy and believe they are your partner in a situation where both of you are feeling unappreciated, unheard and undervalued.   This might help you fall in love again or at least start to respect each other a little bit more.

- In most of the posts, there is an underlying belief seems to be that the spouse can fix the angst they feel about life. They don’t care if they don’t change how things are, but the issue seems like perspective on life has changed from one person while the offending spouse is holding steady hoping it will change back.   Not defending them, but when emotions lead, everyone loses. 
- Their work is seen as a vacation from the family responsibilities, not as an investment in the family.  They may feel that the current challenges are temporary and if they stay committed to the long term goals all will work out in the end.[/quote]
Hilarious!

You think changing my “perspective on life” is going to fix the broken garage door or help my dyslexic child or meal plan/cook, or plot out summer camps/ trips, or provide decent childcare so I can unpack the house??!

Meanwhile the other do-nothing parent freeloads, hides in his home office, ignores his children, eats dinner in 3 minutes, then walks off “to relax” and pass out by 8:30pm watching Netflix. Daily.

No emotions needed. He’s a deadweight. Lots of non-emotional data and camera feeds to back that up. Or ask the kids. [/quote]

You seem to have taken that post personally, when it reads like a generalization of multiple posts.  Your husband does sound completely checked out and frustrating, but the hate you have requires a change in perspective or marital status, if you don’t want ulcers or a heart attack.  [/quote]

Lolz.

U still parroting back that same bad line. Fix your attitude?  Change your perspective? That’s for minor $hit, this is major $hit. Action is needed. At a minimum radical acceptable and then ignore the loser liability entirely.[/quote]

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