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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a Jew with a very non-Jewish name - don’t do it. My whole life, everyone has assumed I’m not Jewish or a convert. Which isn’t the end of the world but it gets tedious. When I got married the rabbi grilled me about whether I was sure I wasn’t a convert, because of my name.

If you must call her Mary, then name her Miriam and use Mary as a nickname.

Also your other kids have very religious sounding Jewish names and if you add Mary, people will think she’s adopted and not converted. With Miriam, even nicknamed Mary, they won’t think that. [/quote]
THIS. I've had to jump through hoops to prove that I'm Jewish because of my non-Jewish name (especially when getting married). I swear they practically did a full-blown background check on me. They wanted the names of my parents, my grandparents, etc. They wanted to know which cemeteries my older ancestors are buried in. They wanted to know where my family emigrated from. Thankfully, my parents were able to give me their ketubah that I was able to eventually provide as proof to easily put the doubt to rest.

If your daughter is even slightly interested in her Jewish identity and wants to be actively involved in her Jewish community, being named Mary will be a nightmare for her logistically speaking.[/quote]

Why does anyone even choose to be part of a community that is so exclusive and unwelcoming? That is a choice.

This proves to me that humans are still very tribalistic.[/quote]

Jewish people are literally members of tribes so of course they are tribalistic.[/quote]
Being tribalistic (in the sense that I’m referring to) in 2026 is not a positive thing. (This applies to all groups.) We’re all human beings.

I can bet that if you (or anyone else - including myself) needed an organ donation or blood transfusion, you would accept the first match without hesitation. [b]You wouldn’t ask which ethnic or racial group the donor belongs to.[/b][/quote]

What? Of course I would. The odds of an organ matching you better if it’s from your same group of people is obviously higher?? What nonsense is this?[/quote]

Let’s think about this rationally. Jewish people (assuming you’re Jewish) are about 2.5% of the US population (assuming you live in the US). An even smaller percentage are eligible and/or willing to be blood or organ donors. The likelihood that you would receive blood or an organ from another Jewish person in the event of needing either is extremely low. This is especially true in the case of blood transfusions.

Can you honestly say that you would turn down a match solely because the donor didn’t belong to your ethnic group? There are also higher odds of one’s own family members being a better match, but I doubt any sane person would turn down a match from a stranger if that was their only option.[/quote]

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