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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Update: we are both undergoing home observations and the kids had to do theirs at their dad’s last week. Apparently he hadn’t changed or added anything. The kids were asked to give a house tour. One of them tried to show off the cool sink in the downstairs bathroom but hit the pantry and hall closet first, oops.

They got upstairs and the person conducting the observation questioned them when the youngest said “actually we don’t know which rooms are ours or if we have rooms”. Not sure what the response to that was or how the house was assessed.

I think that ultimately I’m being scrutinized closely and expected to have everything just-right at my house, and STBX is being given credit for having a house with a roof. Lesson learned.

Kids were disappointed because they thought that maybe they would have rooms all filled up with surprises in time for the observation like some kind of sad divorce HGTV show.[/quote]

Some kind of sad divorce HGTV show, omg, lol.

I'm sorry. I would say, it doesn't bode well if he couldn't get his shit together for an official observation. I am also coparenting with an underdeveloped human. And like yours, they tell me all the really dumb things he does. At least they see him for what he is.

I try to have boundaries around my time and emotions, but I step in when my kids are the ones paying the price for his fails. It's a balancing act. In EMDR this week I focused on the fact that his constantly creating chaos is very stressful, but that I don't have to be hypervigilant scanning or it, because I always rise to the occasion. [/quote]

Not OP, but I am [i]very[/i] curious how it works to try and use EMDR to process this kind of stuff.[/quote]

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