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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So it’s an incredible waste of money to sign up for an SAT or ACT tutoring service. Khan Academy is free and there are other free options. The only thing a $2000 SAT tutoring service does is make your unmotivated child sit there and do it.

For the demand from your mother to pay her back for the gift she gave you, you should see if she did indeed spend $1000 for it. It very well could be a $300-$500 on sale or close out or fenced  item. Honestly, I would tell her that you are shocked she is asking for a gift reimbursement and to in the future not get you gifts. Personally, I wouldn’t refund her but if you do don’t do it without receipts. I’d bet she is padding the amount to hand over more money to your sister.[/quote]

[b]My answer would depend somewhat on whether family members bailed you out when you were down and out. [/b]

Give your mother the laptop back. Tell your sister and anyone else who expects money, “I’m not in a position to be able to contribute to your finances.” No further explanation needed. [/quote]

Yes, my family did help me, which I then improved my financial situation(moved up in my career). My sister for example just expects hand outs and doesn't have the motivation to do better. Dropped out of college, hopped from retail to customer service jobs(many times just walking out and never coming back), continues to have children, etc. She doesn't really have a plan for the future. I don't want to give money to someone who isn't going to level up.

And for my mom, I don't mind giving her money(if she were to visit and I'd pay for her or just give her money on holidays, etc), but to ask payment for something that was clearly a gift is outrageous! The laptop was purchased this summer and she now wants money because she assumes that I'll have it. [/quote]

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