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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn't ask about his dating. What had you done relationship wise before you met him?  He may be your best partner so far but what's the metric you use?

You work but your parents give you and siblings money too?

Are you and boyfriend from same background culturally ?
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OP here with some additional info.

In terms of what metric I’m using to compare him, I can say they he stands out as partner in positive ways compared to what I’ve observed from people I’m around— friends, coworkers, and even multiple ex’s. To give context, one was a few years older and established and I was in like my junior year of high, while the others were same age, and I did go on many dates with more mature but not too much older of men, so I’m not just comparing him to young immature college ex’s. He still is one guy that stands out to me the most.
I don’t think I’m being naive of unrealistic and don’t know what I want. He had everything I’d want in a husband: easygoing, responsible, kind, faithful, intelligent, mature, etc. We get along really well and rarely, if ever, argue or fight. When we do have conflict, we handle it well.

As for money, I don’t depend on my parents. They’re generous, and they don’t give me money because I need it. All four of my siblings are married to working spouses, have solid careers, and three of them have kids. My parents also help pay their kids’ school expenses & a few other costs, not because any of them asked, but as a form of extra support, as a favor. I don’t rely on them for financial support, and I’m not dependent on them.

My boyfriend and I are both white, but I’m third-generation French, while my boyfriend doesn’t have any recent immigration history— his ancestry is German.

When it comes to me moving in together, well, we did talk last night (about marriage for the first time in a little while), and what he said really surprised me. He mentioned that he had planned for us to move in together, live together, and then get engaged—not long after (spring or summer of 2026)—with the goal of being married by 2027.
 
 He has said that he wants marriage a few years down the line, but I didn’t think he was planning an engagement so soon. Honestly, I’m feeling a lot of different emotions right now and need some time to process everything and need a moment to pause and think.

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Yes, living together is a test period to make sure you're not crazy. So far you're failing.

Also, if he is self-made, rather than coming from money as you seem to, then the "extra support" you get from your parents is probably extremely off-putting.[/quote]

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