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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe just let her come and go as she pleases but don't give in to the drama. Don't change plans for her, don't make special plans for her, and don't act like it's a big deal if and when she shows up. She's seeking attention and to upend your lives . . . don't give her oxygen.[/quote]
During her “re-entry”, though, she acts like a wounded animal, cowering in corners and just acting generally uneasy, like someone may yell at her. It creates an incredibly uncomfortable situation, and my kids are old enough to pick up on the awkwardness. I don’t want every holiday to be shrouded in this tension. It’s not fair to them, or to us.

—OP[/quote]

Let her come over and be awkward. You continue to do you, and you don't give in to her attention-seeking behavior. She wants you to argue with you, she wants to control your emotions, she wants you to ask her what's wrong. Don't.[/quote]

I'm not OP but why does she have to let her MIL come over and be awkward? Why isn't OP entitled to NOT have that in her life?

I'm sensing that many of you may not have dealt with people like this before. It's not as simple as just allowing them to come and go as they please. If the MIL could do that then OP wouldn't be in this position in the first place![/quote]

What is this entitled nonsense? It's not a panhandler from the street. It's her husband's mother and the only person who gets a say in that other than OP is him. There's nothing anyone can say but figure it out with your husband. OP is not "entitled" to dictate his relationships with his mom.[/quote]

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