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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have one kid but grew up in a family with four kids.

I think 3 or more is a lot. But I do think families that have plenty of support from extended family and who can afford nannies, au pairs, or other help, can handle it better than I could with none of those things. In my MC family growing up, four was too many, my parents were very overwhelmed, and I think all of my siblings and I experienced neglect of some kind (including medical neglect -- several of us have chronic health issues that can be traced to undiagnosed childhood problems). So I was very wary about keeping my own family small enough for me to handle, especially without a big support system.[/quote]

Was it that your parents were too overwhelmed to notice? [/quote]

DP but it depends a lot on parent personality and financial resources. Most people (myself included) should not have 4 kids because they can’t handle it from a bad width or financial perspective. I’m one of four kids from a well off family and my mom had the financial freedom to stay home while we were young and then take on a flexible career, allowing her to prioritize her four kids. We were well educated, well cared for, dressed well and all did whatever activities we wanted. My spouse and I don’t have as much money as our parents, so we both work in corporate careers and could never manage four kids.

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