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[quote=Anonymous]Sharing the perspective of what happens when support is uneven amongst siblings, if helpful.

I am one of four siblings. Parents are upper middle class. They made it clear to us that whatever college we wanted they would cover and we all did work study to help pay for incidentals. This did not result in my dad working past retirement but it was a financial strain because we all went to costly schools.

What’s interesting is the two oldest kids (myself included) knew we were 100% our own after college and pursued careers accordingly (grad school and family vacations not covered, although the parents did contribute to some of our wedding costs so maybe not 100%). The younger two did not receive this messaging and to this day (10 years post college for the youngest), they rely on my parents, who are retired and don’t really have the funds to do this. I am fully prepared to have to financially support my parents later in life and know the younger two won’t be able to contribute.

I used to be very salty about this dynamic, but as I became a parent, my parents have supported us with extensive time and help with the kids. I’m no longer salty because I  realized they are just helping how they can for the kid (adult) in front of them. However I’m glad they had stricter boundaries for me because it ultimately served me very well in the long run.  [/quote]

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