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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, almost everyone's hormones fall off a cliff at some point.

If yours don't, you need a sex doll, not an actual woman. Or, you need to date / marry a desperate poor young woman.[/quote]

If your hormones fall off, you still have an obligation to meet your husband half way and fulfill your marital duties. It is your responsibility to figure it out instead of leaving your husband hanging. For one partner to unilaterally declare the marriage celibate is cruel.

Meeting your husband half way does not make you a sex doll; it makes you a loving and caring partner. Compromise is part of marriage, it is common sense.[/quote]

Maybe it's just a phrasing thing, but the idea of my wife "fulfilling her marital duties" makes my skin crawl. I want to keep having sex, but I want her to be an enthusiastic participant. If she's not, it's - at *best* - an unnecessarily complicated form of masturbation. I know I've heard wives around here say that "wanting her to want it" is expecting too much; but that's exactly what I want. [/quote]
I 100% agree. The men who want their wives to have sex with them out of "duty" when they don't want to sound so creepy. Why do you want to have sex with someone who isn't enthusiastically into it? These men see women as a series of holes to fulfil them, not as human beings. It's extremely rapey. [/quote]

Sure, it’s selfish to expect someone to have sex with you out of duty. The point is, if a woman actually loves her husband, but has no desire to have sex with him, it’s her responsibility to work on herself and figure out why. Could be medical, could be mental, or could be a combination. To just say sorry, not interested, and that’s that, is selfish.[/quote]
People are allowed to decline sex. Just because [i]you [/i]feel like it doesn't mean that she has to.

Breaking news - women are people too! Not just animated sex dolls! [/quote]

This is absolutely true and a marriage doesn’t just grant you carte blanche access to your partner’s body. I’m a DH and honestly, I don’t want sex with someone who doesn’t want me and isn’t into it.  I guess that’s the issue here - its not WANTING your partner thats tough. Duty sex sucks for both people but I guess if you want stay connected and meep the relationship alive its something people do.

In dead bedroom marriages its really tough for the high libido partner. [b]Its like you married me and I’m a high earner, but, I really start to resent the stress of my job and its not healthy for me. I decide without agreement from you partner that I’m done working, or I just quiet quit.  It's a major change to our relationship and you ptobably would divorce me[/b].[/quote]

So many men who post in this forum operate on the assumption that their major contribution to their marriages is income.

I make almost 3X what my DH earns and it wouldn't occur to me to think that my income is my major contribution to my marriage.  Are people (men) really that transactional?  Put in the work and the dollars, and get sex in return?[/quote]

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