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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?[/quote]

I have an issue with it.  I feel like it gives DH a skewed perception of how sexually adventurous most married women with kids are.    
Like he wants me to go to these resorts or hotel takeovers where people have group sex, and I’m not interested.  
Then I ask him to look at whatever porn he is watching as a sexy thing, and he shows me this “amateur” video of this couple going to one of these hotel takeovers.  They show them beforehand, and the wife is acting all nervous, etc.  I think that since he watches so much of this stuff, he thinks these are kind of typical women, and I am some kind of prude. Or maybe not typical, but like 1-2 standard deviations above the mean.  But these are women who are making money by having sex and putting it on the internet.  The way they are acting is fake.  And these little conversations are fake. And this is a very small minority of women.  [/quote]

I will add that it’s an extremely small percentage of middle aged married women with kids and a professional career.  It’s not like some of the couples at the neighborhood bbq go to Hedonism on a couples trip while we lamely go to a vanilla beach resort.[/quote]

I [b]do[/b] go to Hedonism and I still agree with you that most women do not do this and you are quite typical. The biggest turn-off is couples where it’s clear the man has browbeaten the woman to come to the resort and she is miserable. We avoid those couples like the plague. [/quote]

Okay.  So are there a lot of perimenopausal women who are in decades long marriages to the father of their children there?

I honestly don’t think I have ever met anyone IRL who wasn’t involved with the porn industry who has gone to these things.  But maybe DH is right and people are lying about it.  🤷‍♀️ [/quote]

I think majority of the people there are older couples you wouldn't want to interact with, but that's not advertised for many reasons.[/quote]

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