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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you sure he doesn’t plan to remarry quickly? Then the new wife would simply continue instead of grandma.[/quote]

This is the most pressing concern. The grandmother is red herring. He could easily be planning to have a girlfriend watch the kids while he travels.

You should definitely ask for right of first refusal. [/quote]

I agree. I think the ex may get 50/50 (it's presumed in many places, including where I am) but there should be a right of first refusal clause in there. The child should defenitely be with a parent if the other one is away. And the ex would still have 50/50. OP, you could set the ROFR for 8 hours, so if exdh leaves to travel, it would trigger it, but if your mom is watching dc for a few hours, it won't.

There is no reason mil should be caring for dc if a parent is available. It's in dc's best interest to have time with both parents.[/quote]

I doubt that a parent that is going to be foreseeably absent during their sought after custody time would actually get it for sure. This is a question for OP’s lawyer. 
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Yes, it is a question for the lawyer-but in many places, it would not matter. OP knows that the ex travels and she needs to consider rofr so dc can be with their parent, rather than mil or random gf's, because that is in the dc's best interest.[/quote]

Anyone who argues a child being with her grandmother is against the child’s best interests is going to be laughed out of court. What an absurd contention. [/quote]

Um, anyone who argues that a child being with someone other than their available and willing parent is absurd and the judge will not be amused.[/quote]

You’re completely wrong. A grandparent caring for their grandchild is fine. Any judge will agree and will 100% see through the vindictiveness and manipulative impulses of people like you and OP.[/quote]

You're completely wrong. A grandparent does not have equal standing with parenting time and the child's parent is available and willing. You are literally giving false advice, not sure if you know it's incorrect or just want it a certain way.[/quote]

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