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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly is it she wants you to do that you're not doing for your own kids?[/quote]

Her kids/grandkids are all 30/60/90-minute drives away, less than half as far as mine.  We go to every possible event with them.  Ratio of interaction is like 20:1 vs. mine who are twice as far away or more.[/quote]

Well, I can't blame her for wanting to go to all the things if they are not far. [b]That ratio is bad[/b] but what do you want to do to make it fair? Accompany her less, or go to more of your family's events, or move closer to your family? [/quote]

She is very busy; there is no way she could handle a 1:1 ratio.  So this works for her.  But it makes me annoyed/feeling guilty/resentful.  And my kids (maybe understandably) aren’t always so thrilled about her presence.[/quote]

If you don’t do something about this situation soon, the feelings of annoyance/guilt/and resentment will kill the relationship anyway - problem solved.

[b]What are your and your girlfriend’s ages? [/b]How many kids does she have and how old?[/quote]

It's so obvious that she is younger than he is.  [/quote]

Not sure how this grandma is obviously younger than I.  She’s not, but what’s more relevant is that there are lots and lots of grown kids, partners, and grandchildren, of roughly equal numbers.[/quote]

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