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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not one single person is defending my gf whose kids and grandkids are so warm/embracing of me and is hurt by the often-chilly reception she experiences—why can’t my kids treat her more in the way I am treated by her kids?  And my kids are plenty warm/easy with me — but still uneasy with gf.  After two years.[/quote]

Your kids are adults with their own lives.  YOU chose to bring your girlfriend into YOUR life.  Your adult children have no obligation to her.  Why on earth would your adult kids, with families and lives of their own, suddenly feel "plenty warm" toward some random old lady they don't know, just because she is sharing their father's bed?  Especially since she is clearly cunning enough to manipulate him so that her own family becomes the priority?  Can you really not see how stupid and easily manipulated you have been here?

OP, you've clearly decided.  Your priority is your girlfriend.  The relationship you value the most is with her, not with your kids.  Everyone here sees that, and your kids certainly see it too.  I bet you made it clear even before you married her, right?  You were probably smitten and focused on the fact that you had a new sex partner after your "gray divorce", and you were absolutely prepared to sacrifice your relationship with your kids to keep the new woman in your bed, right?

And you posted this thread not because you are open to changing ANYTHING about yourself, nor are you open to doing anything your girlfriend won't like, even seeing your own grandkids when it would mean "abandoning" her for a few hours?  No, you posted this thread hoping for agreement that your adult kids are being the unreasonable ones here, that you have done nothing wrong.

You are a terrible father, and you are a terrible person.  
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