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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I woke up early to start working on a stock to make a family soup recipe. I bought the bones last night. Started cooking them today in a huge pot. I use a specific method for the stock, which is a bit time intensive, but it makes for a good, clean and milky delicious broth, with meat that falls off the bone. It was pretty much finished, after about 3 hours total of boiling/simmering.

I had to run out for an errand, and when I returned, I was shocked to see that my husband had thrown out the entire pot of stock. Hours of work out the window. I gasped and said “why did you throw out my stock?!”

He basically rolled his eyes and said I was overreacting and said my reaction was completely inappropriate. That I was acting like he killed somebody. Which made me even more upset.  He said I was the one who left it unattended, and how was he was he to know that he wasn’t supposed to throw it out.

I said I was mad because I’d been working on it all morning and then for him to throw it out and then turn it around and blame me for it was really what made it a lot worse.

He said I was acting as if he did it to intentionally hurt or harm me, and that he didn’t want to argue about it, and that he’d talk to me about my communication issues when I was able to be rational and calm about it.

Everything he was saying was making me feel crazy.  I feel destabilized. Why am I the villain in this?

What is happening here? [/quote]

I am a married male to a female.

I am an excellent cook and serious about whatever I make for our family.  My wife and I discuss meals and level of prep required (and if I/we have time for soup, slow cooked protein/or truly smoking something for 8-15 hours).

Sounds like you are not on same page.  Making a good meal is not an individual effort;  one person can do it - but it is immensely time and [b]emotionally consuming.[/b][/quote]

No.[/quote]

lol.

Cooking a good meal requires passion, patience and talent.  Not everyone has true culinary talent; but most of home chefs and wannabe Chopped contestants are invested in our meals a plating.

Totally get it if you do not understand- keep hitting drive thru and uber eats for a “good meal”.[/quote]

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