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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So we are boomers and even though we help out so much with our grandkids that they’re almost our own—and every one of our boomer friends with grandkids also helps out quite a bit even if not to our extent—I constantly read on this website how awful we are so I decided to dig a little deeper.

Yes, it appears we are overall not as helpful as prior generations and many of the younger generations label us as “selfish” when it comes to this as a result.

But what I really think is going on is that we are the first generation where the majority of homes are two income driven and where women were encouraged to pursue their careers and think about their own needs, etc.  And you all are next in line.  So I suspect you all will also approach being grandparents the way you perceive many of us to be—less helpful than your own grandparents.  The times they are a changing.  [/quote]

Honestly? I'd be very surprised if I end up treating my kids and grandkids the way my mom does. I find her disinterest so hurtful (after hounding us to have kids in the first place...) that I couldn't turn around and do the same to my kids when they are adults. Time will tell, of course.[/quote]

Well, your mom isn't normal.  I don't think anyone is claiming that our entire generation is so "disinterested" in their grandkids that it's "hurtful."  I certainly don't know anyone like that.  They're just generally less helpful.[/quote]

Wait so not getting to know your kid and being surprised that they're in high school now isn't being hurtful? Because plenty of us related with that poster when it came to our own parents. Sounds like there are plenty boomers that are just like that.[/quote]

Some are, some aren't. I don't relate to much of this because my boomer parents (who are alive) weren't like this nor are any of my friend's grandparents. I'm generally shocked how hands on and involved so many are. I see them all the time at every school performance, birthday, milestone, etc. This was not like when I was a kid where grandparents weren't on hand so much including my own. I saw one grandmother once every few years.[/quote]

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