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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is autistic.  People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME.  They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought.  They are not.  People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child.  A stranger's child.  Without knowing what was going on.  You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable.  You were very much in the wrong.[/quote]
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OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you. [/quote]

Your sob story really doesn't matter. When you go out in public you know people are going to be unpredictable. Your own kid is unpredictable. Buckle up, it can be wild out there. Or leave your kid at home.[/quote]

Or perhaps those of us that can control our behavior give grace to this family that are struggling. This is not permanent impact OP. This was a brief disturbance and required patience rather than confrontation.[/quote]

Thank you PP. I’m the one that this nasty person replied to. I absolutely don’t have a sob story, I just think people like the nasty reply need to realize a 5 minute encounter in the grocery store is merely a window to what is going on. They have no way of knowing the full picture and didn’t try to or even ask the adult if they needed help.  Compassion and understanding go a long way. [b]Yelling at an unknown toddler [/b]without first talking to the adult doesn’t help anyone. It’s people like this PP that make life for someone with a neurodivergent kid pure hell. Leaving my kid home for everything only perpetuates her differences. If PP had read my reply, we have a whole team of therapists working to make normal life possible. I suppose PPs like the rude one would rather anyone who doesn’t meet their standards be locked up somewhere, but I’m taking the approach of helping my daughter. For everyone else reading this who is not nasty, I just wanted to throw out there that sometimes merely a smile to the parent dealing with this can go a long way.[/quote]
The only person yelling was the obnoxious child. Stop making up stories to blame OP for your own issues. [/quote]

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