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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is autistic.  People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME.  They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought.  They are not.  People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child.  A stranger's child.  Without knowing what was going on.  You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable.  You were very much in the wrong.[/quote]
If your child is shrieking in the store to the point of disturbing others, maybe it’s time to take them home. It doesn’t matter that they have autism, frankly. [/quote]
I reply too soon. One of the ways that kids learn how to behave in public when they have challenges is to be in public. They have as much a right to be out in the world as you do. We’re not hiding autistic children at home for your comfort.[/quote]

A parent of an autistic child here. Nothing about this situation says to me the child was autistic. She was corrected and she stopp ed. Seems perfectly neurotypical to me. If the mother had done it in the first place, there would be no need for OP to do it.[/quote]

As a special educator with early childhood experience, the first disability that came to mind was hearing loss.  Kids with hearing loss often have difficulty regulating volume because they can’t hear it.

But there are lots of toddlers, including many neurodivergent toddlers who might find it scary to have an adult come close to them, and address them directly in public.  The fact that the child cried doesn’t mean that they understood what the OP was saying, or took it as a “correction”.  They stopped screaming because their mouth started doing something else, in this case crying.

That isn’t to say that if the child’s parents had chosen to stop their screaming this way it wouldn’t have been fine.  But OP shouldn’t have approached or addressed the child.[/quote]

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