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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a thread.  Are you all so insecure in how you've parented and in the kids that you've raised that you can't let your kids make their own choices without judging other kids and other parents?

We knew nothing about Greek before our oldest went to UVA.  Neither did she.  All we knew was that UVA was a great school, it was in state tuition, she was happy to go there, and it had a Greek system.

I don't remember how we reacted when she decided to rush, but I do remember her stories about the process.  She went into the whole thing very open minded and very confident -- she just figured she'd be herself, as she always has been, and see where the chips fell.  More than anything else, she has a good sense of humor and was looking to connect with other girls who were the same way.  So she didn't hold back, not even a little, and in the end got a bid to a nice sorority with good and smart girls, had a great four years, and has stayed friends with them.  They've all become happy, successful, well rounded, independent, open-minded women.

Had she not gotten a bid, trust me -- she would have survived.

I don't understand what everyone's problem is.  If you've raised your kid right for the first 18 years, you need to trust them to make their own decisions when they get to college, and not deride other kids who make different ones.  If you're not doing that, you've either raised kids who aren't confident, or you're not confident in either them or yourself, and that's not good.

To me, the vitriol and defensiveness that I'm seeing here is really just a mask for lack of confidence.

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I said I made lifelong friends from my time in a house, but found it ultimately limiting. You can call that vitriol and a lack of confidence if you want to. I have enough confidence not to get worked up about it [/quote]

So because that's how you found it, that means everyone should feel the same way?

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Good thing I never said that. I was responding to the “rational discussion” idea. Those are my thoughts. Hope your kids love it.  [/quote]

But the whole "I found it limiting" would have as much to do with you as the system, right?  For example, my Greek kid had friends both in and out of her house and was a bridesmaid years later in her first year roommate's wedding -- who never even rushed.

Sounds like you approached it as something that confined you.  Not everyone does.[/quote]

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