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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually think the OP and most of the comments were not about impressive people with “unimpressive” children.  They were about “impressive” people who are not good parents.[/quote]

Exactly. I think there is a problem in certain UMC circles where the things they think are "impressive" are actually incompatible with good parenting.

A lot of the parents I know who are obsessed with being impressive or having impressive kids make selfish choices based on the image they want to project and not based on what their kids need. Like they insist on lots of foreign travel to sophisticated locations where their kids are bored and jet lagged, because they want their kids to be "well traveled." But they'd probably be better off doing less elaborate travel and focusing on building their kids' resilience, patience, and encouraging existing interests. They wind up with kids who are "sophisticated" but not necessarily impressive people. Their kids might have done better if the focus had been more on building their character, developing values, socialization, etc., rather than pushing them to behave like small, sophisticated adults.[/quote]

Op here. You may be right that these impressive people are not good parents. Several of my adult friends seem to really struggle with parenting. This post was about one family whose parents are total rock stars in every way possible except parenting. I seem to have many adult friends whose kids are just not doing well. I am just shocked at how my friends can be so passive with these kids who are so disrespectful. I have another friend whose daughter is just super spoiled. The girl is smart though. She is so rude and so entitled. The parents seem to continue to spoil her, apologize for her bad behavior and seem to accept her as she is.

My parent friends who are the parents are my kids’ friends are not all impressive academically or professionally, but they have some nice well behaved great kids who are doing well academically, socially and emotionally. [/quote]

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