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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I agree it wasn't a great example. I actually changed details because I didn't want to use the real comments on here in case people who were there read it. I didn't realize we were going to get into an argument about whether North Face is high end, lol.

In context, the second kid was definitely making a point about how his possession was higher end and therefore better. He wasn't being literal -- he was offended that his friend had indicated that they had "matching" possessions because the brand/cost was important to the second kid. [b]Several people present cringed, not just me, but the parents just smiled. I thought it was weird.
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Kids are late elementary.

I'm trying to think of other examples. I've seen kids make comments about travel sports versus rec. I met a kid recently who made a big deal about taking ballet at the WSB instead of a smaller studio. I've heard kids brag about vacations. Their parents cars.

To be clear, I've also heard my kids make comments like this. I do not tolerate it. If my kid says something like this, I say something immediately about how the difference they might be highlighting doesn't matter, or I go out of my way to compliment the other kid or ask about their activity or whatever. I don't put my kid down or yell at them, but I course correct and show them how to be inclusive and kind. [b]I am surprised when parents are silent in these moments. It comes off as tacit acceptance of the behavior.[/b] I think sometimes the kids don't realize it's rude, but that's all the more reason to do something. I don't want my kids becoming the kind of adults who do this kind of thing.[/quote]

OP, I agree with you completely and the problem is that we have a concentration of awful people in this region who are like this. I run into adults with these sorts of attitudes all the time, so of course their children are this way. At our DC's school, there is one child who is particularly like this and his father is the guy at cocktail parties doing the same thing. It is learned behavior. Of course the parents don't correct the child when they don't see anything wrong with it. They are raising these children in their image. [/quote]

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