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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these DH’s. Hope there are some women out there![/quote]

I don’t think you know what you’re wishing for. This is not a motherhood friendly life. [/quote]

I am a BigLaw mom and have been a partner for 12 years at a top firm. It is absolutely do-able to be a BigLaw mom and be very present in your kids’ lives (room parent, attend nearly every game or show, home for bedtime, emotionally present). After years of hearing the complaining by the spouses of (mostly) men in BigLaw I have come to the conclusion that these men that are being complained about are just affirmatively choosing to not be present or do the hard work for family matters. They can attend the big events, they can help out around the house, they can help with carpool, they can carry the mental load, they can attend the function. They are just choosing not to. It’s a crutch. They just don’t want to do it so they blame work. Ask any rockstar mom. We are used to doing it all. I enjoy my job, I love my kids, I have fun with my friends, I take vacation. It is do-able. If it’s not it’s because you don’t want to (no judgment there), you have poor time management skills, or you’re at the wrong firm. Caveat here that I am not one of the $5M plus earners. I do agree that once you get to the 7-10M+ category, the stakes are raised significantly. [/quote]

How many hours are you billing? I disagree with your post. Most biglaw partners can’t just miss a closing in Paris because it’s their kids field trip or soccer championship or birthday. It’s not a default parent compatible career. Most partners are working around the clock. And it’s not predictable. Things will be slower at times - meaning you’re probably just working most of the day, and at least part of the day on vacations - and then other times, you’ll be working until 3am when a deal is closing, and canceling any preplanned plans.[/quote]

Biglaw Dad here.  White collar defense.  Global practice -- 20 plus years as partner.  I agree with BigLaw mom and have done all of the stuff she has done.  Are there some times I can't -- yes -- criminal trials a couple of times in another city.  Travel a lot in general.  But once you hit a level you can control a lot about the schedule.  Not all the time but enough to make it mostly work.  I have been at a couple of firms and I do not understand the partners that are not present for the kids absent some big issue.  [/quote]

DH is a BigLaw partner and can show up for games, performances, awards at school, whatever.

That doesn’t negate all the early mornings, late nights, weekends and hours on vacation he has spent putting out some fire or another. It’s grueling and relentless and the clients don’t care - they just want it DONE.

The kids are fine. I am okay but I miss him. We have a nice life. But it’s so much for him and I worry about him. [/quote]

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