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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A few things:

1) No, not everyone ends up with a bunch of extra embryos. It’s age and diagnosis dependent, and luck plays a huge role. For me, unexplained secondary infertility, great numbers, 39 years old, the doctor said on average you get one PGT-A normal embryo, which basically gives you a 50/50 shot at a baby, hence the 50% success rate. We ended up with a whopping 4 embryos, but 3 were PGT-A abnormal (not compatible with life). Our one stuck, so no extra.

2) I think some of this is misplaced anxiety. What you will tell your hypothetical child 10+ years from now is an emotional red herring. It sounds like YOU are a bit uncomfortable discarding embryos, and that’s how your mind is expressing that discomfort. I’d explore from that angle. [/quote]

Bingo. I think PP hit it with #2.

Also, kids and teens and young adults are very self-focused and unlikely to even ask about extra embryos. [/quote]

Agree with all. Op, are you asking this along the same vein of would you tell your kid about having an abortion? Any kids/teens I know would find this weird information to receive I think.

What are you thinking they would think?? About a sibling? Maybe some only kids want a sibling and some kids imagine an older brother or older sister being ideal. But most kids/teens don't want a baby or wish for a younger sibling. To me this is medical info and your choices that you would have no reason to share with a kid. It's just neutral information. [/quote]

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